This week on Instagram, I saw a post that could have been written by me… but it wasn’t! It said:
"If we want emotionally secure children, we must first secure their mothers. Her wellbeing isn’t extra; its the foundation. You can’t demand calme, present, regulated parenting from someone who’s exhausted, unseen and structurally unsupported. Care for a mother means more than “self-care slogans”; it means real rest, nourishment and space to feel without shame. Her rage is wisdom. Her exhaustion is information. Her nervous system is the blueprint for her child's. We cannot keep building futures on the backs of burned-out women calling it resilience.."
Damn. Isn’t that the truth?
We say we want emotionally secure children. But what about emotionally secure mothers?
You can’t demand calm, patience or conscious parenting from women who are running on empty, unseen, and unheard. And I believe this with my whole heart: modern mothers are not failing even if they feel like they are.
They rise every day inside a culture that whispers:
"Be everything. Ask for nothing."
What we’ve asked of mothers is impossible:
To be calm in chaos.
To attune while overwhelmed.
To soothe others while running on fumes.
And still they try. They love. They show up.
We are stacking the emotional health of an entire generation onto women who are under-resourced, overworked and invisibly grieving.
We call their grief “postpartum.”
We call their rage “disorder.”
We call their depletion “normal.”
And still, they mother.
This generation of mothers is doing something remarkable. Parenting through rupture. Nurturing while healing. Breaking cycles with no roadmap. And still, they rise.
We don’t need more resilient mothers. We need fewer systems that demand burnout and call it strength.
Because a mother’s wellbeing is not extra. It is the foundation.
Until we honour that, we are not honouring the next generation.
I want to say it again: Until we honour that, we are not honouring the next generation.
I’m opening my diary for 1:1 sessions this Autumn, and I have two precious spaces for mothers ready to be truly supported.
This is for you if you’re feeling stretched, overwhelmed, or constantly “on,” and you long for a way to come back to yourself: to feel steadier, softer and more present with your children without the pressure to be perfect.
In these sessions, we’ll explore my R.E.S.T method: a four-part framework designed to help mothers reconnect with themselves, move through overwhelm and find more ease in daily life.
These sessions are tailored to your life, with practical tools, gentle guidance and a compassionate space to practice these steps. You’ll leave feeling clearer, more grounded and more able to show up for yourself and your children in a way that feels human and sustainable.
I’m inviting you to reach out today to secure a free taster session, available only until 5th September. With only two spaces available, I’d love to hold space for you this coming Autumn while they’re still open. Simply hit reply with “STEADY” and I’ll be in touch.
With love,
Stevie xx